At some point in life, you will most certainly face disappointment. Here are a few strategies I have learned for dealing with disappointment, big or small:
Broaden your perspective.
It’s difficult, but important to trust that there’s a bigger picture that probably isn’t clear to you. You may never even realize the full depth of it, but there’s a greater plan at work that includes the future. It’s important to also understand that something disappointing for you sometimes means someone else is benefiting. It’s refreshing to appreciate someone’s gain, even if it isn’t your own.
Embrace the unknown.
Realize that it’s best for you to not get everything you want. You may even come to see why at some point. One door has to close before another one can open. Although unknown, the future is full of possibility.
Despite how you feel, have hope.
Disappointment is difficult because it is sad, frustrating, infuriating, and/or anything in between. It’s fine to allow yourself those feelings, but there becomes a time to move forward. No matter what you feel, believe that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope.
If you are struggling with disappointment, I highly recommend Walking with God through Pain and Suffering by Tim Keller. Reading the book completely changed my perspective; I have embraced a new identify – apart from my circumstances – and my hope is more in God than in any agenda I have devised for my life.
It is freeing to deal with disappointment in a completely new way.